pics from the archive…. you can sort of see a rifle, and the cop goon squad… teach me not to have my newtosill cam up!
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Well, shit.
Something you never want to see in a quiet neighborhood. A gang of cops with rifles pointing at your house, and an armed one at the door when you’re freshly naked from the shower.
Here it is in raw, uncleaned up format.
Newt and I just were allowed back into the apartment, after 2 hours of being made to wait in a carport 4 houses down the street. My landlord (the apartment is an efficiency built into the side of a larger house) apparently decided to arm himself, take some vicadin, and scare his girlfriend. I don’t know the whole story yet, just that there were over a dozen police cars, a fire safety vehicle and a fire engine descending on my home. I was just drying after a shower when a BCS officer knocks on my door, and tells me to come out…I let him know I’m nude and ask if it can wait a moment as I dry and dress… he told me to hurry up, and asked me through my louvered windows if there were any other entrances to my apartment than the front door. I told him no… and asked what it was all about. He said for me to just please come out, and I said sure…’Could you please tell me what’s going on..” He then informs me of the above ‘armed-drugged, please leave for your own safety/may we come inside your apartment” I told him sure, as I had my pants on by then, and picked up Newton, and walked out and up the street, as fast as my sandaled feet would take me and my orange striped son. We go four houses down the street to the nearest neighbor I know, and knock on the door, asking if I may hang out on the porch for a while… they’re good about it (as I expected, and I filled them in on what’s happening…. we at and talked about the lunacy of the deed holders of my place, and how any mook can get a gun these days. Their daughter had never met Newton, and he charmed the 8 year old completely…she said that Newton could stay over in her room whenever he wanted. (I may take them up on it, if I ever have to leave town for a day or two…) It’s funny, I had a fear that I might never see any of my stuff at the house again, but I just grabbed the baby… I even left my laptop behind. (that stuff is all replaceable….Newton’s too precious to me to leave anywhere.)
Lakme’s apologized to me over AIM, and says her actions were driven by a need to protect her friends.
I hope she is as kind to the others she’s maligned.
chat transcript – straightening lakme out.
LakmeKapay (8:11:26 PM): you up for a chat?
BigLug23 (8:11:35 PM): sure.
LakmeKapay (8:12:14 PM): look. dude. I have NOTHING against you. I never even cared about that friends list thing. You were someone totally peripheral to me. But Penny and I were pretty close back then, and she told me flat out it was you who helped her.
BigLug23 (8:12:31 PM): that’s fine. but it’s untrue.
LakmeKapay (8:12:35 PM): I always thought you were nice and stuff, but ANYONE who would do that to my friend is not cool. you get me?
LakmeKapay (8:12:45 PM): then why couldn’t she get the entries after Carrie took you off again?
BigLug23 (8:12:47 PM): I hear you, but I don’t do stuff like that.
BigLug23 (8:13:01 PM): it could’ve been in her cache, before she refreshed…
LakmeKapay (8:13:08 PM): you know, everyone tells me this, and you seem this way.
BigLug23 (8:13:21 PM): I don’t know, but I do know I didn’t pull any nonsense.
LakmeKapay (8:13:22 PM): then why would she tell me it was you?
BigLug23 (8:13:30 PM): I don’t know.
BigLug23 (8:13:44 PM): maybe she misspoke?
LakmeKapay (8:13:46 PM): you don’t have a bit of a *problem* with that?
BigLug23 (8:13:59 PM): nope, because I don’t know you that well.
LakmeKapay (8:14:00 PM): dude, she literally said it was you who had gotten back on carrie’s list and given her the entries.
BigLug23 (8:14:21 PM): unless I can see it, it’s a question of her word against yours.
LakmeKapay (8:14:23 PM): I don’t know you either. Why would I pull this out of my ass?
LakmeKapay (8:14:48 PM): I honestly don’t have it. I deleted her from my ICQ after she broke into the account for the millionth time.
BigLug23 (8:14:49 PM): she’s now come out and said it wasn’t me.
BigLug23 (8:15:07 PM): why would you trust a stalker over a stranger?
LakmeKapay (8:15:12 PM): how do you know her? you’ve had her on both your friends list, may I ask?
LakmeKapay (8:15:30 PM): oh, Carrie and I had a fight way back when, and Penny tends to glom onto people she thinks might sympathize.
BigLug23 (8:15:34 PM): yup. I met her through Lj, like 99% of my links.
LakmeKapay (8:16:26 PM): dude. the fbi is now investigating penny’s hacking of Carrie’s accounts. they are going to check everything. I’ll let it drop, but if there is some record of it on your computer or something, I strongly suggest you delete it or you’ll have more trouble than you’d wish for, okay?
BigLug23 (8:16:30 PM): I really don’t remember exactly, but she’s been nice to me. I don’t understand the penny/carrie thing, and don’t really care to.
BigLug23 (8:16:49 PM): nothing on my machine, so I’m cool.
BigLug23 (8:16:54 PM): I’ve done nothing wrong.
LakmeKapay (8:17:00 PM): I’m not threatening you, I’m just warning you. Penny is in major shit.
BigLug23 (8:17:15 PM): good. I hope people who commit crimes are punished for them.
LakmeKapay (8:17:19 PM): look. If it wasn’t you, I’m sorry. I honestly didn’t’ say any of this to cause trouble for you.
BigLug23 (8:17:28 PM): it wasn’t.
LakmeKapay (8:17:41 PM): but I think you can understand my point of view. if it was me giving out your friends entries, woudln’t you want to warn others?
LakmeKapay (8:17:46 PM): this shit gets *scary*
BigLug23 (8:17:57 PM): if I had proof, I’d go to brad about it.
LakmeKapay (8:18:01 PM): penny hacked her entire MACHINE
BigLug23 (8:18:18 PM): well, then why use anones pw? she could use carries own.
LakmeKapay (8:18:35 PM): well there isn’t much they can do if you gave her your password, though-if I gave you mine, it would be yours to use too
LakmeKapay (8:18:56 PM): I think she had help in doing it this time. Carrie’s had problems with her linex box at work for months and I think Penny finally figured outhow to get in
BigLug23 (8:18:57 PM): all I know is that I’ve done no wrong, and I’ve been accused of it. my friends have been treated badly as a result.
LakmeKapay (8:19:06 PM): and carrie hasn’t?
BigLug23 (8:19:18 PM): I don’t know. 2 wrongs don’t make a right.
LakmeKapay (8:19:47 PM): no, but it also isn’t fair that someone gave out her entries. and when penny tells me flat out it was you, why wouldn’t I worry for Kathleen and Billi?
LakmeKapay (8:20:06 PM): I mean, I was on ICQ when Carrie said “okay, she’s trying to get in, and she can’t see them now!”
LakmeKapay (8:20:12 PM): literally two minutes after.
BigLug23 (8:20:13 PM): from what I’ve seen, your form of caring is verbal abuse.
LakmeKapay (8:20:32 PM): oh, I got enough of it on this end, dude. there is plenty you didn’t see
BigLug23 (8:20:38 PM): kathleen and billi seem to have been slammed, not cared for.
BigLug23 (8:20:48 PM): I don’t doubt that.
LakmeKapay (8:21:40 PM): no, they slammed me right back. I never asked anyone to take sides or to delete you. I was just worried that if they let you see private stuff it also might become a problem. I mean, tell me something. What motivation would I have to lie about this situation?
BigLug23 (8:22:21 PM): I don’t know you well enough to establish motive.
LakmeKapay (8:22:47 PM): I have no idea what your motivation for assisting penny for would be either, but again, why would she say it?
BigLug23 (8:22:50 PM): what motive would I have to give out pw?
LakmeKapay (8:23:03 PM): oh, penny’s pretty convincing.
BigLug23 (8:23:04 PM): who knows.
LakmeKapay (8:23:15 PM): I spent time talking to her. I know what she can be like.
BigLug23 (8:23:16 PM): Well, I’m not in the habit.
BigLug23 (8:23:29 PM): I don’t give stuff like that out, plain and simple.
BigLug23 (8:23:37 PM): I feel you were misinformed.
LakmeKapay (8:23:39 PM): well. I guess I can’t say anything else.
LakmeKapay (8:23:54 PM): I’m sorry for offending you, if that counts for anything.
BigLug23 (8:24:01 PM): I hope you get the truth.
LakmeKapay (8:24:04 PM): but really, my only desire was to protect others.
LakmeKapay (8:24:21 PM): I’ve been lied to by enough assholes on LJ that I get really sick of it, you know?
BigLug23 (8:24:28 PM): that’s fine.
BigLug23 (8:24:38 PM): There are a lot of nice folks there too.
LakmeKapay (8:24:53 PM): yeah, well. you try having a journal made up to mock you. that’s an awful lot of fun.
BigLug23 (8:25:19 PM): I don’t take the opinions of valueless folk very highly.
BigLug23 (8:25:42 PM): I just don’t like my friends treated badly.
LakmeKapay (8:25:44 PM): look, dude, you really do seem nice, and I’m sorry. But poor Carrie has been mercilessly harassed.
BigLug23 (8:26:01 PM): Carrie has nothing to do with me.
LakmeKapay (8:26:02 PM): my only intent was to stop the nastiness. really
BigLug23 (8:26:28 PM): next time, just do a little more research… ip tracking, brad.
LakmeKapay (8:26:44 PM): I don’t know how to do any of that stuff. Carrie has all the logs, though.
BigLug23 (8:26:48 PM): or tell me… my pw could”ve been hacked.
LakmeKapay (8:26:49 PM): or I do believe she does.
LakmeKapay (8:27:08 PM): yeah, but twice? with you emailing her to get back on? tell me how creepy that looks
BigLug23 (8:27:10 PM): I change it frequently, but who knows the security of LJ.
LakmeKapay (8:27:43 PM): look. I’ll say it once more and leave you alone for good, and take my entry down. I’m sorry. It wasn’t intended to hurt you.
BigLug23 (8:28:06 PM): feel free to leave it up.
LakmeKapay (8:28:16 PM): whatever. see ya scott.
BigLug23 (8:28:20 PM): seeya.
I quote from dotgirls reply to my earlier post –
From dotgirl, whom even Lakme claims is not prone to lies –
Scottobear doesn’t deserve to be raked across the coals. He’s done nothing wrong. Period. If he’s ever given anyone his password, it certainly wasn’t me.
I’m on hiatus from LJ for a while, but this was called to my attention by some friends, and I wanted to address it. I don’t mind sitting by and letting myself be badmouthed, but I’m not about to let it happen to a perfectly innocent person.
As for the clamouring to know who *did* give me the password – I’m sorry, but that is not going to happen. If the person comes forward of their own accord, that’s fine, but it is not my right to out anyone.
so, can we let this all drop?
Hm.
Well, this is interesting. I hear via the grapevine that my character is being assassinated in private posts by Lakme, and games are being played along the lines of “If you’re my friend, you won’t be his…”.
That sort of stuff is just childish, if that is what’s happening. being on the outside of Lakme’s journal, and not a part of dotgirl or carrie’s journals for quite a while, I don’t have the whole story.
Here is my take on it, though, feel free to correct me in polite words if I’m wrong.
Lakme claims that I gave out my password to dotgirl, so she could continue to rea private entries of carrie’s. Well, no. I don’t give my password out to anyone, unless it’s an admin in order to change to a new one. since that’s done automatically by LJ, no human has been given it. Now, I’m not calling lakme a liar, because she could just be misinformed.
In all honesty, I do remember enjoying carrie’s journal, but there’s a lot of fish in the LJ sea, and I really have too many linktos on my friends list anyhow.
I do think it’s strange, given Lakme’s love of confrontation and combat that she hasn’t attacked me publicly with her accusations, which is why I put the disclaimer “grapevine” comment at the front. last conflict I had with her was months ago, about me dropping her from my friends list. I hear that there’s some sort of proof, but nobody has seen it. I’ll be interested in seeing or hearing what it is, if it exists at all, as I’ve not done any of what I hear I’ve been accused of.
Folks who know me, and read both lakme and myself no doubt will see some very real personality differences… I for one, do not delete my journal in an “on-line suicide” in order to get attention from folks that read my journal. I try to work things out, or if that doesn’t work, I walk away from the fight, if there’s no logic in it.
I don’t think of myself as an angry person, or needy for attention. If folks would like to unlink, or link to my page, well, have a nice trip, and welcome aboard respectively. I really don’t know the bulk of you folks… most of you are quite nice, friendly, and offer a clever comment or just a friendly wave. I won’t be mad if you leave, though. This journal is for me and stuff I find to be fun… you’re welcome to visit whenever you like. Longtime linkers here know that my posts are either public or totally private. I think that I’ve posted probably 5 or so friends only posts, and even then it was pretty much the same as I have here out in public.
This whole “my friend your friend” thing smacks of the politics of high school. Hang with who you want to hang with. Take advice or don’t. Good luck with whatever you decide, and I hope you do well.
Just so everyone knows, my journal is staying as long as LJ allows it. People that get outraged with me and my friends are welcome to continue to be so in public or private, but they are not welcome to treat my friends cruelly, unfairly or without kindness.
Protected: boring cubicle combat…
ignore that earlier post, if you saw it.
I deleted it, as the rant was non-productive, and hurtful.
in summary,
If you break another person’s trust, you deserve what you get, and I hope you get the worst. If you break my trust, I’ll probably take great pleasure in seeing you suffer for it. Ah, well, I’m not so enlightened. A couple of monkey instincts left in this yeti.
Oathbreakers, beware. I take vows very seriously.
Hey all!
I imagine I’ve finally arrived! I got my first rude anonymous post! (two, actually!) I’m amazed it’d taken as long as it had…
On another note, welcome sanssouci and everyone else who has recently linked to me. 🙂
Saw PSycho Beach Party with my little brother today, had a fun time with him, all told. I recommend PSB to anyone.
The scary thing is that we have a girl at work that is a spitting image of Lauren Ambrose. And she loves Dharma and Greg. 🙂 (Lauren and the Greg guy are both in the film.)
this just in. (this is a true-fact… not a scotto-sillie) From Salon.
Oct. 8, 2000 | LOS ANGELES — The actress who played “Fonzie’s” girlfriend on television’s “Happy Days” has admitted she violated probation when she hit her ex-boyfriend with a cane.
Roz Kelly, 58, who played Pinky Tuscadero opposite actor Henry Winkler in the long-running comedy, faces up to two years in prison for the violation, prosecutors said Friday.
Kelly was sentenced to three years probation last year after she pleaded no contest to charges she fired a shotgun at two cars and into a home. She was ordered to undergo psychiatric counseling for what her attorneys said was a bipolar disorder.
She was arrested Aug. 20 after her former boyfriend told police she hit him on the head.
welcome!
welcome, new friends, heidilynne…and who? who was the other person?
Went to twinstar’s cam tonight…did I mention how cute that girl is? I’m so fortunate to have so many cuties linking to me. Zoe, Cider.. the rest know who you are. 🙂 Why can’t I get babeage like this to chat me up in ‘real life’ ?
goodbye, warchild.
I didn’t know you, but you will be missed by many. Strong Journey.
Folks…
as much as I enjoy and admire Darktrain… I am not him, and he is not me. Papoose and Kellie both have mentioned this. I am complimented but find it vaguely disconcerting… I can’t do all that writing! besides, I’d be major schizo if I carried those kinds of conversations back and forth.
I am jacks skewed sense of irony.
The last two days at work.
Actually, Monday through Wednesday at about 6pm.
Monday. We get data that takes ffffffffffforever to arrive, finally shows up like 10 or 11 pm. (I’m supposed to go home at 8). I begin to run the process, and it claims it will finish sometime Wednesday. Ack! One of my co-workers, Robert decides to be extra bonus childish, and rat out another co Joel for spending time in the computer dept. Feh. Rat-finks and tattletales should get squashed like bugs, then discarded. (Ratting someone out over something serious, like hurting someone else, that’s another story.)
Tuesday management steps in, and proceeds to take a bad situation and make it worse. The folks who are supposed to request the way things are to be done gave me a trainee, who knew nothing about what was needed. I had to play quiz kids with him for quite a while, every step of the way, which slowed the job down to a tragic molasses pace. To make matters worse, once all of the needs/requirements were ironed out, the boss, who up until this point had nothing to do with the situation begins following the job from point to point, critical of every step, calling people stupid, accusing folks of deliberately sabotaging the process, being verbally abusive and actually yelling at points. (fortunately not at me. the owner is a huge bully, and is incapable of being that obnoxious to someone larger than himself. He’s about 6’3, and maybe 250 lbs. Not used to bigger people.) Anyhow, he verbally urinated on Tuan, probably the most devoted and tolerant person I know. Tuan laughed to the bosses face, and quit. Good for him!
Wednesday. Boss calls morning meetings, (this is 2nd hand, as I come in at noon) and slows us down even more. Asks why we didn’t have meetings, yells about how everyone except him is a moron that couldn’t ever do anything right. I come in, and as my immediate boss, a swell guy, what the score is. He tells me ‘ Tuan gone, boss is in dire need of some mental help.’ The owner made folks that weren’t actively involved cry, or just general upset due to being near that foolishness.
If I could pick one person to throw under a bus…. well let’s just say I know a guy I’d choose. A villain, a blackguard, a cruel, vile cur, needing blunt head trauma, preferably at 500 psi or more.
Back to actively seeking a good job. Too much time spent lingering at that spiritual bunghole.
driving me mad.
Inigo: “Who are you?”
The Man in Black: “No one of consequence.”
Inigo: “I must know.”
The Man in Black: “Get used to disappointment.”
— “The Princess Bride”
People do this sort of thing to me all the time. What do they care who I am, or what I’m doing there? I know I’m a big, scary, hairy guy. But if I’m not messing with anyone, just leave the BSHG alone, ok? I live in the USA… there should be no need for showing my papers, and explaining what I’m up to. (For what it’s worth, I was doing laundry, and writing character notes/sketches in my notepad. Nothing really.) When an older guy walks up to me, and gives me silly nonsense about loitering (Waiting for your laundry is loitering? In front of the Laundromat?) I automatically got defensive. If he’d taken a different diplomatic track, like maybe giving a smile, or asking politely, I might’ve given a grin back, and had a friendly conversation. Instead… I turn into a bit of a creep. Feed him some of what he’s giving off. (A bad move. I really shouldn’t deal with people when overtired or cranky.) The discussion went something like this.
Older Guy : “Hey, you! This is a no loitering area! You have a reason for being here?”
Me: -thinking to myself- *man, leave me alone*
Me: -out Loud- “Yo no hablo Ingles” (in my american florida accent.)
Older Guy : -something in spanish – I assume the same thing he said in english-
Me: -thinking to myself- *Nuts. Stupid bilingual old guy. I shouldn’t have done spanish in south florida.*
Me: -aloud- “um, Yo no hablo espanol.”
Older Guy: “I’m going to go get a policeman. You’d better be gone when I get back.”
Me: “Fine. Go get a cop, you f-ing nazi. See you when he gets here. I’ll press harassment charges.”
Older Guy “This is private property. you have to leave”
Me: “Yo no hablo Ingles”
Older guy leaves. My dryer finishes, and I begin folding my laundry. Older guy returns.
Older Guy : “Are those your clothes?”
Me: -Holding up a XXL Tiedye T-shirt.- “What do you think?”
Older Guy : “Why didn’t you tell me you were here for a reason, instead of loitering?”
Me “No Hablo Ingles”
Older Guy, Pissed off. “Finish and leave. Don’t come back.”
Me “Que? Yo no hablo….”
Older Guy “Are you trying to start a fight?”
Me “…” -folds laundry-
Older Guy glares for ~45 seconds, then leaves.
I finish folding laundry, and go home.
Thrilling.
I feel that if I was a clean shaven 5’6″ guy, nobody would have cared. He never said he was the owner or anything, so when my next batch of clothes come due… I’ll be interested in seeing if he’s there. Never seen him before.
too much drama in my life?
ok. more weirdness to add to my current situation. I get a phone call out of the blue from my pal Chase. (I’ve not heard from her in about 3 months)… apparently she and her girlfriend of 10 years are ready to have a child together. Problematic, as they are both lacking testicles, and want to give birth, not adopt. Enter Scotto. “He’s got sperm! and I bet he’s not using all of it!” Well. Truth be told, I’ve just been using it recreationally, and not procreationally… but yeah, I guess so. Here’s the deal, they’d just as soon not go to a clinic and pay some guy to take it out of me, and plug it into Chase… they’d prefer the old fashioned, free installation that mother nature provides. Ok. I’m at the “Well, won’t there be jealousy, or something from you having sex with me?” part of the conversation… and Chase says, “No, we’ve talked it out, and you’re a nice guy… not emotional strings or anything, and we like what you have to offer…(she rattles off some stuff about me being healthy, etc, I come back with my apnea and back trouble, she says that they’ll cope with the advantages over the disads. *egoboo*) Then she mentions that if everything’s still cool, that her gf would like to have a baby about a year after the baby is born, and they’d like it if I agree to the first, if I’d agree to that too. Um. Well, let me think abut this, it’s pretty important stuff…
that’s where I am now. I think she expected me to agree right away, but was happy that I’m taking it seriously.
my immediate concerns are this –
I’ve really never had sex with someone I’m not attracted to ‘as just friends’. The closest I’ve gotten is some silly stuff with someone I had a crush on, and she was just fooling around, although I took it a little more seriously. It’s a good cause, and I’m honored they asked… but I’m not sure what my responsibility to the baby will be, should I draw up some sort of contract? Should I sire a baby with someone else, when I haven’t had any of my own kids yet? I don’t know what my feelings to a child I’m just serving as donor semen for will be, especially since I’d probably be there with them here and again, visiting.
Something for me to think seriously about.